Daughter, you want to marry this man. Do you love
him? Is he kind to you? Does he share faith with you?
Are you happy with him? Do you laugh with him?
Does he want to help you to grow? Are you afraid of
him? What do other girlssay about him? Has he been
violent to you? Does he control you? Will he give you
his fortnight pay? Does he drink alcohol? Will he be
unfaithful to you? Is he kind to children?
Pikinini meri, yu laik maritim dispela man.
Yu lovim em stret? Em i gutpela long yu?
Em i bilip long God wankain yu? Yu amamas
long em? Yu save lap wantaim em? Em i laik
litimapim laip bilong yu? Yu pret long em?
Olgeta arapela meri i tok olsem wanem? Em
i paitim yu bipo? Em i wok long bosim yu? Em
bai givim yu fotnait pe bilong em? Em i save
spak? Em bai kisim HIV/AIDS i kam insait long
famili?
How do men abuse women in this
country?
country?
Women are abused in the world. It comes
from the fact that men see themselves as
superior gender and physically stronger
than women. Women have the task of
looking after the house and family. They
need money for food, clothes, soap,
school fees and medicine.
Many men will be angry at sharing money.
Many will be angry if they come home at
any time and food is not ready. Many will
be angry if their wife refuses sex. So they
bash their wife often in drunken anger.
Planti meri i kisim taim nogut stret long
olgeta hap bilong graun. Long India
i peim prais bilong maritim man. Mani i go
long famili. Sapos pe bilong man i go antap
prais i go antap. Planti meri i dai bikos man
i laik kisim nupela meri.
Long olgeta hap, man i strong moa long meri
long sait bilong bodi tasol. Planti meri i winim
man long strong bilong spirit. Ol meri i mas i
gat strong long lukautim famili. Planti i karim
planti pikinini na strong bilong bodi i go daun.
Ol meri i mas wok long kisim mani bilong baim
kaikai bilong famili, marasin na klos. Ol i mas
peim skul fi. Planti man i no strong tumas. Ol
i no lukautim famili. Pikinini i sik, orait mama
i lukautim. Planti man i kros sapos meri i askim
em long givim mani bilong lukautim haus.
As tru bilong HIV/AIDS em bilong planti man i
raun na slip wantaim planti meri na kisim sik
o givim sik long ol. Ol i kam na givim sik long
famili bilong ol.
What are the traps for young women?
Many young women are trapped into a relationship with a
man by false promises. They let a man bash them and do
not see this as a danger sign. He will bash them again and
again. The man does not help in the home.
He comes home drunk. If the woman runs away, He will
find her and take her back. Family may be afraid to stop
him. They will blame the woman.
The biggest trap is to become pregnant and be forced to
seek money from the man who may be a stranger to the
woman. The man may trap a woman into early death with
HIV infection.
Planti yangpela meri i amamas moa yet sapos
wanpela man i laikim em. Ol i no sindaun na
skelim toktok bilong em. Em i tok olsem em
bai lovim em na lukautim em oltaim. Em i tru
o nogat?
Meri i no sekim em na painimaut olsem em i
gat famili o nogat? Olsem wanem sapos em
i man i raun na grisim ol yangpela meri?
Em i tok olsem em bai putim em long bisnis
koles na painim wok long wanpela opis bilong
em. Em i gat opis bilong em o nogat? Orait em
i stap wantaim dispela man na em i paitim em.
Em i ranawe tasol man i kisim em i kam bek.
Famili i pret long stapim em. Nau meri i gat
bel na man i no kam na lukim em. Em i no
kisim man ii kam.
Meri i no go bek long famili bilong em bikos
em i sem nogut tru. Em i raun long taun na
painim ol man long givim em mani.
Em i salim bodi bilong em. Bipo em i karim
pikinini em i painimaut olsem e mi gat sik
HIV/AIDS.
How can a woman make sure she
is not trapped?
is not trapped?
A woman can ensure safety by seeking the protection of
family. She marries a man known to the family. She is very
careful about marrying a man whose clan lives hundreds of
kilometers away and goes and lives in the village.
The clan may support the man against his wife, especially in
giving blame for the man being HIV infected. A woman can
make sure that she does not have sex with any man and run
the risk of HIV infection, pregnancy & Sexually Transmitted
Infections (STIs). She is safest to wait until she is married to
a man she can trust.
Famili i nambawan samting bilong sapotim na
lukautim ol yangpela man na meri. Plant i laik
lusim famili bikos ol i ting olsem famili bilong
em i no smat tumas.
Ol i laik long raun wantaim ol stail pren.Tasol
taim bai kam na ol bai painim trabel. Ples bilong
hait em insait long famili.
Sapos yangpela meri i gat planti brata na uncle
ol bai inap halivim papa long lukautim yangpela
man o meri sapos wanpela i painim trabel. Nogut
sapos yangpela meri i maritim man i stap longwe
long famili bilong meri. Nogut sapos man i paitim
meri na meri i no inap singautim famili long kam.
